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Choosing Healthier Connections Over Unconstructive Codependency 

We are all social beings where we need one or another person to talk and live with. Be it the loved ones with whom we share a home or the colleagues with whom we work at the office, it would not be wrong to say that our lives are somewhere and somehow woven together. Even the stores we visit or social gatherings we attend, all such places also spark a sense of connection. Sooner or later, all interactions shape our experiences, enrich our lives, and even go on to become so strong that we rely on them to provide support during challenging times.

However, there could be some situations where the lines between healthy dependence and unconstructive codependency begin to get blurred. It happens unknowingly when we are amidst the network of relationships but do not know how and when our emotional well-being is dependent on others. The result? Individual growth and mutual respect begin suffering.

This is where Bloom with Lori can help you! As a reliable expert on Healing Codependency, I am glad to have helped several people gain self-confidence through my comprehensive research and effective practice of the subject on hand.

Let’s delve deeper and understand the needs and wonders of this therapy.

What is Codependency?

Codependency is a behavioral pattern where a person depends on others emotionally or for self-identity excessively. It is most commonly illustrated as prioritizing somebody else’s needs over your own needs leading to detrimental consequences on one’s own personal well-being. You may notice this kind of over-dependency between partners, family members, friends, colleagues, etc.

One may ask why would a person depend on others. Well, such behaviors are usually natural because of deep-seated fears like being abandoned or rejected. Eventually, such fears drive a person to compromise their needs, desires, emotions, and even self-respect with the motive of avoiding conflicts or rejections. Ultimately, the individual begins to feel disheartened, frustrated, resented, emotionally weak, and negative about life.

If you or someone you know is going through such phases, kindly suggest they indulge in Codependency Group Therapy. Get in touch with me either personally or virtually at the Bloom With Lori website. We will together understand the intricacies of codependency and break free from codependency while cultivating relationships built on mutual respect and autonomy.

Addressing codependency involves unlearning these behaviors, setting healthy boundaries, and fostering a sense of self-worth that isn’t contingent on others.

What are the signs of codependency?

The first step towards reversing these behavioral patterns is to trace out the signs. As someone who has a long-standing experience with Healing Codependency, I have listed down some of the most common among them.

  • Difficulty in saying ‘No’ or setting boundaries

The foremost thing people do while falling prey to codependency is to stop saying ‘No’ even if they do not want it; they start to do things only because the other person wants it and they do not want conflicts or rejection. They are constantly overcommitting and may keep meeting others’ demands at personal cost as well.

  • Always doing things to please others

Such individuals may also develop people-pleasing tendencies where they will do anything to make others feel happy or pampered. This happens when they inculcate the strong need for approval from the other person driving them to suppress their true feelings and only focus on others’ happiness, likings, wants, etc.

  • Becoming low on self-esteem

While offering Healing Codependency to my clients, I have noticed another sign conveying the need for therapeutic sessions which is low self-esteem. They often tell me how they keep feeling unworthy and are always looking for approval from others even for the smallest things in their routine lives. Seeking validation is indeed a call sign.

  • Developing different types of emotional fears

Many times, adults develop this feeling where they fear being rejected, left out, or disliked by people around them. These fears of abandonment make them do things they do not want so that they feel accepted at homes, workplaces, and even society at large. Their happiness becomes highly dependent on what others will think of them.

Emotions vary from person to person and hence there would be many more reasons besides the ones cited above. Sign up at Bloom With Lori and I assure you a fruitful analysis of the possible signs to help you a way out effectively.

What happens if a person becomes codependent?

A common misconception is that the effects of codependency include adversities on an individual level only. However, one has to realize that the effects are profound and may sabotage their relationship with others as well. The bifurcation is as follows:-

  • Individual Level- When you are always prioritizing others over you, you will at some point get emotionally exhausted and experience a loss of personal identity. Sadness over petty things may also become a regular thing. Watch out for frustration aggravating into anxiety or depression.

 

  • Relationship Level- When one person is overly reliant on their partner or any other person, there are high chances of imbalanced dynamics in their relationship. After some time, the codependency may invite feelings of suffocation or being undervalued which may eventually break down the bond.

How to come out of the codependency situation?

The solution is real and available easily at Bloom with Lori through my Codependency Group Therapy where I ensure weaving a supportive environment for anyone yearning to overcome codependent behaviors. My method is simple yet effective and includes bringing together those individuals who are facing similar challenges of resentment and codependency. 

My logic behind organizing such group sessions is that people with similar feelings open up better and feel comforted by the feeling of uniformity. This not only creates a sense of community and understanding but also expedites the healing process. So far, it has been a fruitful way for me and my clients where they learn from shared experiences and gain insights into their behaviors through the eyes of others. As a trained and understanding consultant, I always remain with the group to ensure that each participant gets a safe place for displaying their emotions.

Book your slots today for open talks, interactive practices, mutual support, and positive changes.

What are the aims of my group therapy sessions?

At Bloom with Lori, my aim is to make the healing process as collaborative and therapeutic as possible. Better self-awareness and prioritizing your own happiness while also establishing healthier relationships is all I want for all of you. My Codependency Group Therapy is designed to achieve the following for my clients seeking help with codependency.

  • Making people understand that self-respect should be valued.

  • Teaching everyone that respect is a two-way thing.

  • Empowering participants to set and maintain boundaries.

  • Encouraging individuals to trust themselves and let go of external validation in some situations.

  • Promoting relationships based on mutual respect and equality.

  • Providing a supportive community where they feel understood without judgments or opinions.

Let’s nurture relationships and individuals together!
 

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